Valid question, so I'll elaborate a little: Imagine a trainee project manager without formal CS education that is immune to professional criticism by other managers, because she gets told by the boss (and lover) that she's doing perfectly fine and all other are just jealous for the de-facto promotion. This, flanked by threats to everybody that would voice criticism towards her makes for a very bad situation. She received responsibility for a team with a task that would be enough for a seasoned manager and she failed hard - not because she was stupid, but because she never had a chance. All blame for any failure was directed to the developers, so at some point they revolted.
That makes perfect sense. I guess when I imagine a realtionship I assume the couple is smart enough to know that discipline etc is outside the bounds of their relationship, eg, the senior partner won't help the junior partner because they know it will ultimately fuck up both the the company and the relationship.
Thinking about it, assuming everyone knows that is naive. Point conceded.
