I wasn't making up excuses: the danger is real. If you don't have enough leverage to withstand the party walking away, you don't have enough leverage to ask for more. I didn't say "don't negotiate", or "it's too scary"; I'm saying, be ready for the consequences, and don't falsely zero out real risks. That shouldn't be controversial.

It's kind of telling that you have to resort to pathologizing me instead of addressing the concern.