In my country the tradition is to gift things for the couple to start their own home together (e.g. useful household goods) with value roughly in line with the cost of inviting you.
And this no doubt made great sense when people got married young, and someone gifting them a set of pots and pans was just what they needed.
In the present age, where people frequently live together before marriage and get married later in life, they generally already have all the pots and pans they need.
So often the couple will either say they don't need any gifts, or they'll end up with luxury replacements for what they already had (e.g. copper bottomed pans to replace stainless steel)
You might not consider it a loss but if inviting your second-cousin-twice-removed and their family converts £1000 of cash into £1000 of luxury saucepans you end up with a lot less cash on hand.
> In my country the tradition is to gift things for the couple to start their own home together (e.g. useful household goods) with value roughly in line with the cost of inviting you.
If couples need things they set up a registry for any items they want. If there is no registry, bring cash. :)
The general expectation is either you'll buy a gift or give cash (to at least cover the rough cost of you attending).
And this no doubt made great sense when people got married young, and someone gifting them a set of pots and pans was just what they needed.
In the present age, where people frequently live together before marriage and get married later in life, they generally already have all the pots and pans they need.
So often the couple will either say they don't need any gifts, or they'll end up with luxury replacements for what they already had (e.g. copper bottomed pans to replace stainless steel)
You might not consider it a loss but if inviting your second-cousin-twice-removed and their family converts £1000 of cash into £1000 of luxury saucepans you end up with a lot less cash on hand.