> "How do you enable your brain to create a wider variety of emotions and improve your emotional intelligence? One approach is to learn new emotion words. Each new word seeds your brain with the capacity to make new emotion predictions (...)"
This is a very interesting article. However, I wonder if/how the concept (or skill) of emotional granularity can be obtained only from learning new words for emotions. It kind of reminds me of NLP (Neuro-Linguisting programming).
Anyone here has any knowledge on these subjects, or is aware of an accessible research paper where this is explained in a simple way? Also, how is this approach of emotional granularity seen by other researchers?
I am polyamorous. One of the frequent questions I get asked is how big of a problem is jealousy. It's a red herring because it usually is not a problem. But early on doing this you learn the difference between jealousy (I don't want my partner doing that with that person), and envy (I want my partner to do that with me). The two have very different fixes.
Or back-generalize to monogamous relationships and anger. I see a lot of relationships in trouble because the partners get into verbal fights. But in my experience, they could both do with a lot more specificity in exactly how and why they're angry (rather than just being "angry").
The Nautilus article about emotional intelligence on HN yesterday was interesting. Specifically in the encouragement that having access to a larger vocabulary of emotional words helped your brain select a more specific one. Vs defaulting to the base emotion if there's nothing more specific available.
I am not talking about defaulting to base emotions but about figuring out what makes up the complex emotion. It's not that something like jealousy is just fear that is masking as something else. It can be something like fear, insecurity, feeling unimportant or ignored, surprise, and sense of loss, combined in some proportion. In my experience, you first have to identify the complex neuanced emotion, then you have to break it down to its components, and then you address those. Complex emotions are very hard to address directly, but easy to throw misdirected and misguided solutions at.
I haven't looked at reasearch on this stuff for well over a decade but it is a topic I am interested in from a somewhat different perspective. Feel free to stop now if you are just looking for research.
The approach I've found helpful in expanding emotional awarness (and which works for a lot of other things too) is to skip the words and directly relate the emotion to previous memories of people expressing that emotion (ideally where you have more knowledge of the context) and to previous memories of the person who is currently expressing the emotion (independent of the emotion currently being expressed). It is hard to explain but people do this naturally some of the time and the basic idea is to catch yourself doing it and try to do it more.
I think there are a number of aspects of difficulty interperating emotion (some mentioned in the article): emotions can depend on multiple kinds of unknown information (such as specific past experinces with the situation or subject of the situation or general mood or overall strength of emotions generally), the time and subjects contributing to the emotion may not be obvious even if shared (i.e. someone smiling at something you say might be reacting to how you pronounce a particular word rather than what you are saying), and your own emotional reaction to the other person's emotional reaction (which in depends on the same set of things for you) will take place before sufficient evaluation of the other person's emotion and affect how you perceive it (so, for example, your mood can affect the accuracy of your perception of other people's emotions as can how fast you expect a response is needed). OTOH, there tends to be a fair amount of human interaction aimed at clarifying the situation when stronger emotions are expressed.
IMO, there is a continuous spectrum from how we shift attention in the most boring situations to strong emotions. There can be preparation for expression or some movement signals sent even in cases where there is no perceptible movement to express emotion. We call it emotion about at the point when it becomes visible but there is not a clear line or a fundamental difference.
I think the article slightly overstates the learned aspect of emotions in that there are some emotions that are hard wired in various ways (that even babies express in similar ways) but if we predict when they would be triggered we can inhibit them (and potentially respond in a different way).
I don't think the aritcle is accurate that a prediction based perspective of the brain didn't exist when Emotional Intelligence was written. It doesn't take neurology research to figure that one out, although hopefully it is a more popular perspective now. IMO, it is really the key to getting a decent high level sense of how the brain works.
I would love to read an updated Emotional Intelligence. :)
Side note: Beyond the obviously false "triune brain" thing, many neurologist argue against less obviously incorrect word "neocortex". Pierre Gloor discusses this at some length early in The Temporal Lobe and Limbic System noting that the same basic division has long existed in olfactory areas and that the name "neocortex" is incorrect (he uses "isocortex"). I am not aware of a counterargument (other than "neocortex" already being widely used).
>I think the article slightly overstates the learned aspect of emotions in that there are some emotions that are hard wired in various ways (that even babies express in similar ways)
My understanding, as from Ekman, is that there are stereotypes expressions of a number of basic emotions, but that these get covered over and replaced for various reasons as children grow up.
I would expect there to still be cases where novel situations could trigger hard wired emotions at any point in life. But maybe there is convincing research against that idea.
Ekman's fairly recently published book "Nonverbal Messages" sounds interesting.
This is a very interesting article. However, I wonder if/how the concept (or skill) of emotional granularity can be obtained only from learning new words for emotions. It kind of reminds me of NLP (Neuro-Linguisting programming).
Anyone here has any knowledge on these subjects, or is aware of an accessible research paper where this is explained in a simple way? Also, how is this approach of emotional granularity seen by other researchers?