Believe me, I am sympathetic. I am naturally quite introverted, and although I do not have difficulty talking with people, doing so wears me out, even if it's with people I care about. It's just how I'm wired.
I think the best advice I can give is to listen to how genuinely empathetic speakers hold the rooms' attention. Try not to think of it as a zero-sum game. If the way you are conveying your ideas is in a way that captivates, you will not be spoken over. Conversely, if the way you're relaying information is combative or confrontational, people will talk over you, even if you have the empirically best ideas in the room.
It sounds like we have nearly identical personalities. Long lost brothers maybe :)
Yeah I figured out the confrontational thing a couple of years ago... after not realising it was an issue for about the first three years of my career. When I'm discussing an idea or an opinion, I tend to view it as totally separate from myself. So I really don't mind if someone attacks 'my' idea or opinion, and I'm generally pretty happy to jettison it if it becomes clear that it's wrong.
For those first three years I just assumed other people saw things the same way. Nope. Was pretty mortified when I realised that I'd probably been upsetting or offending people when I thought was we were just having a really interesting and vigorous discussion.
Have you ever taken a Myers-Briggs test? INTx? At any rate, thanks for the advice. It's a timely reminder that I need to put more conscious effort into improving here. It's all too easy to just lapse into misanthropy...
I think the best advice I can give is to listen to how genuinely empathetic speakers hold the rooms' attention. Try not to think of it as a zero-sum game. If the way you are conveying your ideas is in a way that captivates, you will not be spoken over. Conversely, if the way you're relaying information is combative or confrontational, people will talk over you, even if you have the empirically best ideas in the room.