Another salient difference (and, for me, a deal-breaker): PostGraphile exposes user-defined functions in the GraphQL API, making it possible to define application logic and build a complete service without recourse to any other server-side technology.
I'd say it's time for you to reassess what you want from life. What look like symptoms are sometimes signals from our subconscious. At 33, you've a chance to change course. Try, for example, the exercises in the book What Color is Your Parachute.
I made that 25 years ago. I've just downloaded it onto my MacBook Air, changed the shebang to reference /usr/bin/awk, and fired it up ("./walk walk.w p -"); it works as advertised. You can still format the doc with "nroff -ms walk.ms", too.
I'm GLad YOu LIke IT, But it's a sHamE ThAt YoU DiD'nT TakE the OPpoRtuNity To acTUally mAke USe Of thE BilIteRal cIpHEr in YOuR ComMent (AS IhAve in THis rePLy).
